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"Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply" Stephen R. Covey
What stops you from listening effectively?
Are you rehearsing what you want to say next? Are you wishing they would just get on with it? Are you distorting what they are saying so it fits how you view things? Are you doing something else at the same time?
When you are talking, you know when someone is not really listening.
If someone does that to you, how does that make you feel?
Have a look at this checklist, and notice which ones are true for you.
Unless someone printed this tip for you, you are using a computer right now, or your mobile.
How are you sitting?
Are you comfortable?
What is the angle of your neck?
How is your back aligned?
Are your shoulders tensed or lopsided?
If you keep sitting this way for another 30 minutes, will you still be comfortable?
Did you change your posture as you read those questions?
What posture feels better for you?
Here is a diagram with the key points about how to sit when using a computer so that you avoid the postural conditions, and pains, that so many computer users develop. Compare how you are sitting right now with the diagram.
Most of us would greatly benefit from having a timer set to remind us to notice our posture, move, stretch, relax, and get up to walk a bit. Try it!
There are some things we don't like. That seems to be a fact of life for those of us who are not enlightened.
Is there something you don't like so much that it bothers you?
You have two options according to Mary Engelbreit...
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you think about it."
I suppose a third choice is to keep doing what you are doing and suffer from your dislike.
So, what bothers you?
What do you choose to do about it?
"Your smile is your logo, your personality is your business card, how you leave others feeling after having an experience with you becomes your trademark." Jay Danzie
How are people impacted by your presence?
What do you want your 'trademark' to be?
This week, after you have met or spoken with someone, take a moment to reflect on how you think they are feeling after interacting with you.
If it's appropriate, you might even go back and ask them :-)
"Commitment is doing the thing you said you would do, long after the mood you said it in has left you." George R. Zalucki
Create a couple of lists...
1. What things do you do, or would you do, even if you don't feel like doing them?
2. What things don't you do, which you should do, when you don't feel like doing them?
Look at these lists.
Is each entry in the best list to give you the life you want?
"Commitment is an act, not a word." Jean-Paul Sartre
We get what we commit to and act on.
Here are some more tips on committing to getting what you want.
Good listening is an essential part of communication. And good communication is critical to many business interactions. So the more we can improve our listening, the more effective we can be in our work.
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